In my opinion, true friends are much better than any relationship, even motherhood. (Guys dont get angry). I too had a great mother. But in reality, the mother is affectionate to the child or children of her own and not of others. That is because she gave birth to them.
But friends are different. We never knew them until we meet or talk to them. I have great friends who were very helpful in my life at different point of time. They never expect anything in return. They just help when they find it is required. THANKYOU Vijay Anand, Krishnen, Raja, Hari (dubai), Hari (bangalore), Mahesh (IBM), Satish Goteti(USA), Ajay, Jaya and many others. Thankyou all...Venkata Subramani (venkeee at yahoo com).
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1. Girls already in marriage/committed relationships talk to any guy on trains,buses,in office..roam around with any guy saying "He is my pal !".....
2. The “male friends” then start touching the gal in the name of "friendly hug" or "friendly touch" or "applying colours during Holi". And today's loose-character gals just enjoy it in the name of friendship. Why can they not think that these things may be objectionable to their partners ? Friend, pal, buddy, are all euphemistic terms to conceal the underlying motives which sometimes operate as sublime and sub-conscious currents.When opposite genders are absolutely alone, it does lead to malice most of the time, if not all.
Re: Re: Never Felt the need
by Rohith M on Aug 05, 2010 11:51 AM
OK let it be that way only...............Life is going the way i wanted it to (wothout frenz) and m happy this way........
I have a best friend ,she is a gal in my office.She considers me her best friend, me too have lot of respect for our freindship.But more often than not, I am getting dark feelings about her....like I look at her body (she is fair and tall) and frankly I want much more out of our friendship than just GOOD CONVERSATION. but i don't want to propose her for marriage etc.
Is it morally worng to expect a frien of oppisite gender to help you in your daily needs as a man ?
Re: Is it wrong ?
by Bad Man on Aug 03, 2010 10:48 AM
And I have similar expectations from my other friends from oppsosite gender barring a few bad-looking ones.
Re: Re: Is it wrong ?
by x on Aug 03, 2010 01:22 PM
Would you expect same thing from your brother/sister, certianly not. Similarly You have to put boundaries to your expectation from your friend. You cannot expect anything from everyone.
Re: Re: Re: Is it wrong ?
by Bad Man on Aug 03, 2010 01:33 PM
Agreed to some extent.But don't u think having GOOD CONVERSATION only with a attractive friend gets boring after some time...as you have been together for some time now (I hav also helped her in tough times),is it entirely wrong to expect something more like cuddling and touching ?
Re: Re: Re: Re: Is it wrong ?
by x on Aug 03, 2010 05:58 PM
To me in friendship caste, culture, sex(male or female), wealth status, phisical condition (Disable) etc is irrelevant. Cudling & touching is ok if it for love & affection towards your friend, but it cannot be with sexual intention. If your intention is so then dont call it friendship call it lover or something else.
I feel there is a friend in everyone...u just need to feel it and reciprocate...i can dedicate my whole life to Shuvomoy, sani and swagata and my other friends who realy love me
Modern Concept of FRIENDSHIP has torn the meaning of friendship in pieces, If you have money, you have friends, if you dont you dont. GIVE AND TAKE is the new mantra.
