The last slide says marriage boils down to power balance. It is ridiculous. If you always think between two people there has to be a hirearchy then you will get into trouble. WHy can't you treat the other person as your equal and also that the other person has some individuality. No two persons are alike. A marriage works when the frequencies of the two people match. Many people say that his/her girlfriend/boyfriend changed after marriage. The reality is meeting or talking to someone for few hours in a day is totally different from staying or living with that person. You get to see the other person from close quarters and you will get to know his/her imperfections. Either you have to accept them and live with that or go your own way. If you don't want to accept that and still want to stay together then you know what happens
Re: Stupid article
by Anil swaroop on Sep 13, 2009 11:54 AM
I totally agree with it. Thidpower balance theory is not the fact in all cases. Yeah! it takes time to understand each other fully and accept both bright & dark sides. I mean no one's perfact and in initial one hour meet or an evening dates, one tends to put up polished mannerism & gentleness only but later on everything revealed. I heard women complining about snoring habits of their husband. But thats part of life where we should incorporate the power theory.
Re: one should get married..
by arungopal agarwal on Sep 11, 2009 12:25 PM
In life only two things are required 1. usefulness 2. happiness. Otherwise no use of keeping life itself.Marriage certainly fulfills both needs.
1. It is becoming fashionable for girls not to change their family titles after the marriage to show that they also have individuality. To me that is not individuality but stubbornness.
2. In Hindu Dharma, it is said that girls don't have castes. They acquire the caste of the man she marries. I rediculed this belief but came to know the wisdom behind it after I read the genetics and heredity.
3. I the case of girls/females it is difficult to flag the lineage and thus inheriting the title is pointless. Whereas, the Y chromosome is easily marked in the case of males and thus the family tree is well established.
4. Therefore, the women should concede the point and follow the age old tradition of acqiring the title of Husband.
5. A well known example is in the case of ASHA BHONSALE. Shewalked out of the marriage and retained the title bhonsale that of her husband. She is famous by that name. She has three children from this husband.
Re: GIRLS MUST CHANGE THEIR FAMILY TITLES AFTER THE MARRIAGE
by IamwatIam on Sep 10, 2009 12:13 PM
caste was man made based on their profession ok..For that matter forget girls ..Anybody dont have caste by birth ok. Its anybodies wish how they must be addressed.
