I lost my father just within one month of my marriage. I was very sad and perturbed as there was nobody who could look after my mother. She was all alone. Being new rather only daughter in law I had many responsibilities in my parents-in-law home. But my father in law helped me to come out of that period. I had very wonderful Father in Law. He was a bit strict but very loving nature. I also lost him a few years back. I remember him a lot whenever I face any problem or whenever I want any guidance.
I miss my father very much. I have been a very spoiled child. I used to make mistakes rather blunders but my kind father always helped me to rectify and lead a smooth life. I owe great to my both the fathers.
I am a proud father having three sons, all of them very well educated in the best professional/management colleges in India and abroad and occupying enviable positions. I have sacrificed all my pleasures and resources in educating them. But now, they think that they have come up on their own and even pick up small instances when they were scolded during their childhood and nurse a grouse against me. This was inevitable to set the behaviour and their performances during student days. Now, they look at me as a father who is not so dear and sometimes even use hate languages. Now I find that the relationship is only technical and not meaningful.As a father I have done the duty and it is up to them to show their love or not, because, as a father I cannot stop loving my children.
Re: father's viewpoint
by arup on Jun 18, 2009 04:22 PM
Uncle, i can only imagine, if not fully understand, what you must be going through. i am a son to a disciplinarian myself and a recent father. but now i realise that it is exactly how my parents had said, "wait till you are a father. only then will you understand the pain and effort in caring for a child and the affection the parents have for him/her." if i would have been one of your sons, I would tell you today, "thank you for being my father. you were there when I was a chestnut and today, when I am an oak tree, there are times when I fail to see the old trees near me. There are other stressful times when I use 'cool and intelligent' language, not realising i might be hurting you with my sarcastic taunts. please forgive me for all this. it is your time now to sit back, relax and enjoy the scenery. I am and will always be proud of you whether I say it or not. Please keep loving me always. I love you lots, your son." Uncle, please don't lose hope ever. Please don't nurse any grouses against your sons even if they do the same. However, at the same time, please start finding other avenues of happiness. you have done a lot unconditionally for your sons. Now it is time to be your own father and do something that gives you happiness for yourself. After all, nobody has / should have the right to make you happy other than yourself. Please take care. Thank you again for being there for your sons.
Re: father's viewpoint
by Vivek Kejriwal on Jun 19, 2009 09:12 AM
I lost my father just 3 months ago. I always thought I kew what parents meant, but I for sure know now what parents really mean and how it feels to lose them. Wake up nasty boys, be men of honour, respect and pamper your parents before it is too late because when you regret it later, there will be no remedy for that.
Re: father's viewpoint
by rohit sharma on Jun 18, 2009 04:09 PM
hello sir yes u have done what a great man can do, but dont worry they will soon realise wat u had given to them and they will be near to u again at some time, cheers
My Dad died 17 years ago at 68 . Is that too young to die. we still feel so since he was in the pink of health . It was unforutnately through a Doctors's misjudgement that I lost my father. I remember him as an extremly talented, very loving person , whom we could run to in difficulty. He was always there with a smiling face. He was an artist , a painter of exceptional talent and sensitivity. I have never seen him getting angry one. Though he himself was an orphan at the ge of six , it was amazing how he had some much love and affection for every one and not an iota of bitterness in his system. I love you Dad , we miss you a lot . I know we have your belssings wherever you are
