Belief and trust is two different thing of life , you trust that they your dad and mom , you do ask proof , but believing a girl/guy is your hand so you have to develop the belief in that girl /guy then your relation works , when you love some one you could do anything for the person , even if she ask you to die you would do it , thats what love is I feel , it is tuff to get that pure love now I feel , things have become much practicable,
"What I say or do is always right...you better listen to me" This is one command line of the spouse that hurts you the most. If one can sit together and discuss matters and arrive at a solution that all can accept including your children there will not be any room for ill feelings in a family. But...are we looking for a 'ever so a wonderful life' here? No way! Ups and downs in life ...arguments and fights are part and parcel of any married life. You don't see a straight line of happiness through out you life. If it is so, you will never know how to face hard times. So annoying habits of your spouse is too to be accepted if you have to live a normal life.
i read all the letters ad the comments. as per the survey-for man-its the social status is first and then come sex,for women the security is first and fifth is sex,if women and men understand this ,belive me very rarely there would be diffifernce of opinion.
there cn be habits in ur partnr that annoy u but don't u have annoying habits????instead of finding fault in our spouse is it not better is v live with the schortcomings & he/she does the same .Life will be definately better with no scope for cribbing.Marriage is abt living together happily not cribbing & sulking.
RE:why to find fault in partner
by Vandana on Sep 13, 2007 05:16 PM
This is the best message till time in this dicussion. Rati, Good Job ! r u married?
RE:why to find fault in partner
by suchi ray on Sep 14, 2007 03:40 PM
Even i feel that this is the best message.Rati if u r married and keep this attitude entire your life u'll be the happiest person.
I am not saying all woman are like this. But I had a bad experience. My Wife was an Umemployee when I married her . With my effort, she managed to get a job.. Her face started changing immediatly after getting the first salary. She started talking harshly to me. She started questioning about my personal expenses. I am getting totally exhausted after work. One I reach home , I am seeing all these thing...
I even though about ending life... See how a bad woman changed my life..
RE:Problem with woman......
by Samit on Sep 13, 2007 04:43 PM
Thnink other way round , first of all remove from your mind that she is ditching you. May be its your perception only. She just only be discussing things with you for your better tomarrow , previously she was not working and don't understand the responsitbility of managing the money, now she also earns and just want to manage both your combined earning and proably for that reasons she may be asking. secondly also remove from your mind that you got her job you only have introduce her she got the job because either she deserve it or she si capcable of. And once individual becomes economically independent then his self respect ,diginity and demands of job becomes priority , and probably she doing teh same and you are taking it as harhness towards you. Analyse the situation by all fairness and if you still feels the same then discuss this with her very casually that you feels this way, before making any decesions. I am sure you will get resolve. Don't keep this burden too long with you.
RE:Problem with woman......
by NAVAN PK on Sep 14, 2007 02:48 PM
By rahul
I am not married but I did all that what I could do for my girl, got her what ever she needed & made hare to do a software testing certification. when she got a job then she did not even bother to stay with me went on with some other guy, so girl don%u2019t love they just play with emotions we guy are emotional fool when we fall in love and waste our money and time ,
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by m m on Sep 13, 2007 05:15 PM
No doubt on that. Men or women, all change their behaviour when they have money in their pockets. The more one has he or she tries to dominate the other. After all the world spins for money ...what is wrong if a woman's head gets heavy with her money???? However there are some good people whose heart is there even if there is no money.
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by on Sep 13, 2007 05:51 PM
Very very true, pls do not slap, nowadays many womens after getting job and handsome salary, they will ofcourse be hard headed, and if attitudes are changing pls prepare yourself not to fight with her as the next thing she will do is book a dowry case against you and you will be in mess
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by swati saksena on Sep 13, 2007 04:08 PM
or what if she does the same with u when she get annoyed with u???? typical male chauvinist profile..must say.. huh..
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by Nitin Singh on Sep 13, 2007 04:37 PM
very true....slapping is not the solution but really this is disgusting when girls behavior change after getting money in her hand...
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by Vandana on Sep 13, 2007 05:03 PM
How can somenody advice to do this kind of deed. IF THIS IS THE CASE, BOTH SHOULD SLAP EACH OTHER.
RE:Just give a slap if she is annoying you .. She will not repeat it
by deepika aggarwal on Sep 13, 2007 04:11 PM
Before repeating this she will leave u.....so better take care of this just before thinking next time
RE:I have habits that annoys my partner
by manjunath patil on Sep 13, 2007 04:48 PM
Hi patman buddy, I like ur frankness. All others here are trying to look fault in others(thats what we are asked to do). But, a person can improve by correcting himself first before finding fault with others... isnt it?? ---Manju
RE:know habits of backward class settlement girl by KVPatil MA,LLB@Camproad.Satara
by Bhojpuri Babu on Sep 20, 2007 03:16 PM
Ekdum sach bola hai babua.........
As the time passes both husband and wife get busy with the demands of their life and start forgetting how they tried to woo and impress each other in the beginning period of their courtship. They also forget to say 'I love you' to each other. These three words are a wonderful way to keep the old feelings alive to some extent. And here starts the annoying program due to small small habits which would not have been so if there had been same zeal in luv.
RE:breathing space in married life - Vandana.G
by vaghelasv on Sep 13, 2007 03:57 PM
when partner wants spce..warning bell signs of cheating spouse.1 You Spends : A cheating less time women with must use the excuse of working long hours, extra meetings and shoppings or other unexplained functions so she will have time with her %u201Cother%u201D man.
2 More Isn%u2019t as: Your affectionate life is almost any non-existent because of her other commitments. She doesn%u2019t want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands or do many of the touchy things she used to.
3 Appearances She changes: Her A cheating physical women usually starts buying new clothes, gets a new hair style or begins working out because she wants to be attractive to the other man in his life besides you.
4 More Cheating short women -tempered becomes because of the guilt feelings, as a result of the infidelity. Things that usually did not bother them suddenly start bothering them.
5 Cohol A cheating, especially women may if she smell hasn of %u2019t had perfume time, or althem from meeting with him.
6 Comes Behavioral defensive changes when. A questioned cheating women about frequently her where be - - abouts. She may turn it around to accuse you of being insecure, possessive or snoopy.
7 Cheating Cell phone women changes cannot: A leave his telephone turned on when with you because his other man may phone her. She may leave the room to have a telephone conversation or say strange things after she picks up a message from her lover. Watch for calls in the middle of the night.
