Wish I had a response to your concerns Liza and Janet...Your stories do sound sad...or maybe just stressful and hard to deal with...same as mine...
I work for a University...with educated people who are mostly passionate about their jobs. However, my boss is a total slacker and definitely not a manager...but of course, that is none of my business...until she starts complaining about me for not helping her seem like she is doing work to her own bosses...so when we have a meeting or have to prepare reports or presentations - she quickly e-mails me and asks me to prepare something that she can review -that is her way of contributing to the piece - and then she sends it off, from her e-mail to the PIs...how unfair is that? One time, I asked a coworker to forward me an e-mail my boss send out to her boss after a long team meeting to which I contributed immensely and which I was not copied on...to find out that each paragraph started with \"I\" - she has given no credit to myself or the rest of the team. Since her bosses are in and out - maybe see her 2 hours a week in our team meeting, they have no clue how big of a slacker she is...so, when did this become relevant to me? I have confronted her about not including my name or the team in the e-mail saying that we should mention to her bosses that it was miscommunicated who contributed. One of my coworkers did, her bosses understood and wanted to move on with the meeting - however, my boss decides to s
Wish I had a response to your concerns Liza and Janet...Your stories do sound sad...or maybe just stressful and hard to deal with...same as mine...
I work for a University...with educated people who are mostly passionate about their jobs. However, my boss is a total slacker and definitely not a manager...but of course, that is none of my business...until she starts complaining about me for not helping her seem like she is doing work to her own bosses...so when we have a meeting or have to prepare reports or presentations - she quickly e-mails me and asks me to prepare something that she can review -that is her way of contributing to the piece - and then she sends it off, from her e-mail to the PIs...how unfair is that? One time, I asked a coworker to forward me an e-mail my boss send out to her boss after a long team meeting to which I contributed immensely and which I was not copied on...to find out that each paragraph started with "I" - she has given no credit to myself or the rest of the team. Since her bosses are in and out - maybe see her 2 hours a week in our team meeting, they have no clue how big of a slacker she is...so, when did this become relevant to me? I have confronted her about not including my name or the team in the e-mail saying that we should mention to her bosses that it was miscommunicated who contributed. One of my coworkers did, her bosses understood and wanted to move on with the meeting - however, my boss decides to stand
Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things better!
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:27 PM
however, my boss decides to stand up in the meeting, point at me and yell at me in front of everybody that I make accusations that are unfair and that she never meant it to sound a unfair. Her boss (my boss's boss) quickly stepped in while I was being very quiet...and said to stop the non-sense because they understood that was team work. However, since that day my boss is been looking for every occasion to make me look bad. She forgets to add me in e-mails...smiles to my face and tells me I am greatly appreciated and needed...then goes behind my back to others at the work place (who are thank god my friends and she does not know that)...and tells them she is not sure about what my responsibilities are...and that I do not have much initiative...pretty much a lot of lies...but, she did mention something to her bosses in completely the wrong context that is affecting my current position. I have informed her of taking two weeks vacation in August and marked on the calendar in her office. She has given me the ok - especially coz she is taking a vacation in the same time...however, tonight I just got an e-mail from one of her bosses- the biggest boss on our project - saying that they were surprised to find out I am leaving at such an important time and that they were informed that I did not ask for permission at all - and that I should have asked them anyways, in addition to her - so she threw me under the bus...now they are questioning if they should pay me for my time since they
Re: Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things bet
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:29 PM
now they are questioning if they should pay me for my time since they need me here...and are questioning whether this will be my job in the fall... She actually left already and her bosses want to meet me and discuss what I have been doing in the past two months and also talk about the traveling I will do in August. I do not want to start talking bad about her to them because it will just be ugly and I don't like to do that...but she is unfair! Plus, she should have communicated to them what each person is doing etc...but she seems to act confused when she has to explain to them about my work load...so at this point I am confused on what to do...friends from work who know the situation have advised me to speak up...write someone about my contributions and do talk about her slacker behavior - but I don't think I can do that...what is your advice? When I meet with them - what should my attitude be?
Re: Re: Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:30 PM
(CONTINUING) to avoid to be defensive and not too emotional...I will try...but I feel that is so unfair she takes credit for my work and that kinds implies I may be slacking...not sure how to deal with this one if not with emotion...
Also, I felt so bad to bring up a personal family issue that i have to deal with on my vacation - which is more of a family retreat that will deal with mourning of my mom and gradnma...hate it that I had to share that with people that barely know me!!! I do not want them to start feeling sorry for me or to think this is an excuse for slacking...which I am not...so, I did though, write them an e-mail with all the parts of the project that I have been working on in the past two months...and the explanation for my necessary vacation...
I am waiting for their response and for the meeting with them on Tuesday...
Re: Re: Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:31 PM
(CONTINUING) to avoid to be defensive and not too emotional...I will try...but I feel that is so unfair she takes credit for my work and that kinds implies I may be slacking...not sure how to deal with this one if not with emotion...
Also, I felt so bad to bring up a personal family issue that i have to deal with on my vacation - which is more of a family retreat that will deal with mourning of my mom and gradnma...hate it that I had to share that with people that barely know me!!! I do not want them to start feeling sorry for me or to think this is an excuse for slacking...which I am not...so, I did though, write them an e-mail with all the parts of the project that I have been working on in the past two months...and the explanation for my necessary vacation...
I am waiting for their response and for the meeting with them on Tuesday...
Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things better!
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:27 PM
however, my boss decides to stand up in the meeting, point at me and yell at me in front of everybody that I make accusations that are unfair and that she never meant it to sound a unfair. Her boss (my boss's boss) quickly stepped in while I was being very quiet...and said to stop the non-sense because they understood that was team work. However, since that day my boss is been looking for every occasion to make me look bad. She forgets to add me in e-mails...smiles to my face and tells me I am greatly appreciated and needed...then goes behind my back to others at the work place (who are thank god my friends and she does not know that)...and tells them she is not sure about what my responsibilities are...and that I do not have much initiative...pretty much a lot of lies...but, she did mention something to her bosses in completely the wrong context that is affecting my current position. I have informed her of taking two weeks vacation in August and marked on the calendar in her office. She has given me the ok - especially coz she is taking a vacation in the same time...however, tonight I just got an e-mail from one of her bosses- the biggest boss on our project - saying that they were surprised to find out I am leaving at such an important time and that they were informed that I did not ask for permission at all - and that I should have asked them anyways, in addition to her - so she threw me under the bus...now they are questioning if they should pay me for my time since the
Re: My boss started hating me...but I want to make things better!
by Gabi on Jul 31, 2011 12:28 PM
however, my boss decides to stand up in the meeting, point at me and yell at me in front of everybody that I make accusations that are unfair and that she never meant it to sound a unfair. Her boss (my boss\'s boss) quickly stepped in while I was being very quiet...and said to stop the non-sense because they understood that was team work. However, since that day my boss is been looking for every occasion to make me look bad. She forgets to add me in e-mails...smiles to my face and tells me I am greatly appreciated and needed...then goes behind my back to others at the work place (who are thank god my friends and she does not know that)...and tells them she is not sure about what my responsibilities are...and that I do not have much initiative...pretty much a lot of lies...but, she did mention something to her bosses in completely the wrong context that is affecting my current position. I have informed her of taking two weeks vacation in August and marked on the calendar in her office. She has given me the ok - especially coz she is taking a vacation in the same time...however, tonight I just got an e-mail from one of her bosses- the biggest boss on our project - saying that they were surprised to find out I am leaving at such an important time and that they were informed that I did not ask for permission at all - and that I should have asked them anyways, in addition to her - so she threw me under the bus...now they are questioning if they should pay me for my time since t
