Gr8 article. Perhaps a response to the advocators of : " Whatever we wear, wherever we go; yes means yes and no means no".
Just one query if anyone could resolve : Is it impractical to incorporate clauses related to dressing sense in the code of conduct / sexual harassment prevention policies of a company (though it is difficult to define decency n stuff) ??
Dear readers, It has been observed by most of the cases,the sexual abuse is part of broken/unhappy/unholy family life experienced by men/women in their life.the mental agony in the mind reflects in one's action.So men/women have some yoga/prayer in morning/evening hours.Think that all we are irrespective of sex are members of vasudev-kutumbam.do this-then see the defference.there will be happy/peaceful family-friendly life. Come up to Hindu-Vedic life style. Let there be peace and harmony among men-women,both are the pillars of this social world. MEN-WOMEN_MEANS -MAKING THE WORLD.forget the enemity-be in love and harmony. By-Vishwanath Shetty.
Harassment is mental or sexual in nature. For guys, mental abuse is more prominent than sexual. Males, being physically stronger of the two sexes, are not harassed sexually. While making laws for sexual harassment, corporates should make provision for mental harassment of males. Females alone should not be allowed to ride the sympathy wave.
Usually, only one side of the story is looked upon. Often, males are treated like condoms - used and thrown. Men should rise to the need of the hour, and get the right laws framed. Can a PIL help? Comments and directions are welcome.
Re: The Martian View
by saurav bhattacharyya on Aug 06, 2013 10:07 AM
Justly written. When its convenient a woman would show everything to him, later, and when/if his office position falls, he's accused of all sorts of sexual harassment. Men must down heavily and not allow such exploitations.
If you can choose an office managed by a lady, the chances of sexual harassment reduces a lot. If you can not find out such office, take a step ahead and develop your own entrepreneur and engage lady employees only, till their marriage. So no male co-worker no experiences with male partners to discuss, no question of sexual harassment....
RE:Choose a lady as MD
by Sukhwinder on Feb 01, 2007 10:49 PM
Yes, there should be more female managers. But it won't stop men from thinking that every reprimand for their incompetence or failure is harassment.
The author is biased in that she implicitly assumes that the harassed victim is a woman. In the modern workplace both men and women can be harassed by people of the same sex or of the opposite sex.
RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by punniyamoorthy ramalingam on Feb 02, 2007 11:04 AM
Hi, Sourav tik, your message and you must be considered as top class stupids. Who are people like you and justice system (in a democratic set-up) other than a person who got victimised to say(decide) that men doesn't have modesty and where is the law to protect modesty of gentle men? People who passed the law and even judges may not be having but why some X or Y should not have? You are saying if a woman harasses a man in any way he should enjoy.Ok. Who are you and justice system to define in that way?
RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by Bala Krishnan on Feb 02, 2007 02:12 PM
Men do get harassed by women. The fact is that it is comparatively very less compared to women being harassed. I personally know a friend who faced this from a senior lady boss and it was very very difficult to dissuage her. And remember the saying hell hath known no fury than a woman scorned. But I still maintain that woamn are considered sexual objects by many men and hence the harassment towards them is also very high.
RE:Gender discrimination
by Sukhwinder on Feb 01, 2007 10:40 PM
You are wrong and the author is right. Men are involved in almost all cases/incidents of such harrassment. Author is not biased just factually and statistically correct. Men being harassed by women is one of the oldest fantasies men have been having since puberty.
RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by Sukhwinder on Feb 01, 2007 11:12 PM
Boss, What did you do about it? We face many situations on a daily basis. We also tend to interpret them in the way most convenient to us. If you face a situation like this you should sit down and talk it out. I agree you can get harassed but men getting harassed sexually is a real stretch. A real man would consider such harassment as flattery (hence the fantasy) but it is apparent that this is not the case with you, right?? And I will relax if you "come out" and tell your experience/s. Just claiming sexual harrasment by a female boss is (again) a convenient excuse!!
RE:RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by MG Venkatesh Babu on Feb 02, 2007 01:01 AM
Sukhwinder, Its because of men like the radical feminist can implement DV and anti-men laws. Grow up. Any human can be abused. Your thought is that women are helpless and men should help themselves. But the posssibility that men can be harrased by women brings such a scathing attack from men like you.
RE:RE:RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by sourav tik on Feb 02, 2007 08:37 AM
just grow up. be a woman for a day and then realise what kind of problems women face (if she wants to maintain her dignity, which 90% of indian women do). and then come and talk about men as victim of sexual harasment. and if you think you are sexually harassed by a women, then I would say you might be the most stupid person on this earth.
RE:RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by Knowledge Software on Feb 02, 2007 05:28 PM
Sukhwinder, You wrote, "A real man would consider such harassment as flattery"
I disagree with your choice of words. I can as well say that a real woman enjoys being molested. Will you aree with me? Definitely not. I myself do not agree that a real woman enjoys molestation. I was just giving an example. I agree that the instances of men being harassed by women are very few compared to the women being harassed, but it does happen. PS:- Are you a female (Panjabi)?
RE:RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by Knowledge Software on Feb 02, 2007 05:24 PM
Sukhwinder, I can tell my experience. I am not sure if you will call it sexual harassment or something else, but the experience I am going to share really happened. First let me tell something about myself to put things in proper perspective. I never sexually harassed any woman. Not only this, I never even did anything, which many (including some females) call as 'harmless' flirting. In my previous workplace I had a female colleague. She used to ask for sexual favours from me. Initially she was not explicit. She used to ask questions like, "Do you think I am beautiful? I love you. Do you feel the same towards me?" Initially I used to tell her as to why she was asking all these and that I was not interested. But when she kept on pestering, then I said, "I am not saying that you are ugly. But I do not feel any attraction because of your looks. So far love is concerned, I do not love you in the sense you are asking if I have understood your sense correctly. I love you the way I love any human being." She kept on trying to attract me. She sent me love letters via emails. Whenever we were together and others were not around, she used to try to attract me. As time passed, she became more and more explicit. She even asked me as to why I consider it wrong if we have physical relation. I just replied, "I am not interested. That's all."
In various ways I tried to explain to her that she should stop all these. But she continued. Then I started avoiding her. Being in the same workplace, it was not possible to avoid her completely. But I avoided her as much as I could. I tried my best to make sure that whenever we were together, there were some others around. One day, during lunch time, one of my male colleagues asked me if I was coming for lunch. I requested him to wait for just a few minutes. The lady I am talking about was sitting a few cubicles away. She overheard me. She sent an email. In that it was written, "Do you want to eat me? You will find my body very tasty."
When she found that I was not getting affected, then she threatened me that she will tell everyone that I was sexually harassing her. I ignored her. One day she really did as she had threatened. She complained to others in the organization that she was sexually harassing her. Not only that, she even started crying while making allegation on me. I was shocked. Others around started saying that they never expected such things from me. I told them that the truth was the other way round. I realized that just because I call myself innocent, then they will not believe me. Then I showed them the emails she sent to me. I also showed them the emails that I had sent to her (copies of those emails were there in my Sent items folder.) Then they came to know the truth. Funny thing is that after they had read the emails, then they said, "No, no. I never suspected you. I knew that you would not do such a thing."
After that I deleted all her emails from my Inbox and all my emails to her from my Sent items folder.
RE:RE:RE:RE:Gender discrimination
by Knowledge Software on Feb 02, 2007 05:03 PM
I posted reply to you but after clicking on Submit found that the reply did not appear. Sigh! My reply got lost. Anyway, I will type that again in my next post.
