My husband and I got married in 2007 and right now we live with my parents. Some of his family I kinda of don't like when I first got married to my husband I basically found out that his parents are gamblholics and use all the money they have for that and when they don't have money they come to him and ask for like one thousand or so with us and they don't even care. It just pisst me off sometimes cause my husband should just tell his mother that we have bills and a baby to take care of too and she should be considerate and not ask for money basically my husabnd's always there for his family but when he need him or if we didn't have enough money for bills or whatever we can never turn to his family, my parents are the ones that help us out and another thing I hate is that when he do go visit his family all they do is gamble and drink alcholo all day and I don't want him around that type of enviroment beacuse he needs to stop I want to have things in life like a house and stuff I just feel like his parents never taught him anything cause their so busy with themselves and all they care about is money. One time his mother asked him for 1,500.00 to pay for rent and it just pisst me off because I have so much bill to pay and he just gave it to her she told him that if she didnt get the money that they'll kick her and his other sibling out of the house. I seriously don't believe that is the reason and another thing he have like 3 siblings that live with his parents and why can't th
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by Guest on Sep 01, 2008 09:30 AM
My problem is somewhat same as before. Me and my husband had 8 month old baby. We have mortgage,household bill,etc..I'm studying right now and he is supporting me. My in laws always ask money for lavish things and my husband never ask why.. he will give without any question..because of this lot of times we got into fight. He fights with me for every penny that I don't have money so he doesn't allow me buy anything..Now I can sense him his love for me is getting less. I'm really depressed with no help from anyone..studying taking care of baby,household..Now I made decision to separate and live as single parent. I don't like to fight with this issue every time. I love my husband so much and I'm really confused Please help me what to do? My Parents expired I have nobody to talk to. I feel sometime to end my life because of my baby I'm living..
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by Guest on Dec 20, 2008 02:11 AM
Ending life is not the solution. I am also married for 6 years ( love marriage) with two small kids. I also feel very much stressed out because of wife-parents and in laws issues. I try to calm my self down when ever I confront these situations and then take it from there. I don't suggest to let things go as they are but atleast one should not make decisions in anger or frustration. I can not live without my wife,kids and parents. so I have to work out a solution. Even I know that may never happen and by the time, I find solution, I might be parent of grown up and then understand what my parents go through now. But then I guess that's called "LIFE".
The article is understandably of a general perspective. though quite acceptable, there are many finer aspects to it. Now, a major factor , for example, will be the family structure of your spouse. If your wife is a single child or her parents dont have a son, then the responsibility of the husband increses. On the other hand, if she has a brother or 2, she will understand that the husband has to take more responsibility of his parents. Also there is the assurance that her brother will take care of her parents. Any ways, if I go on there will be thousands of such conditions. On the whole the article was nice but circumstantial factors should be considered before being judgemental. regards, Abhishek(a bachelor)
Dear all, Life is not a bed of rose. There are so mamny ups and downs in life. Failure is the road of success. Wife is like anybody in ones life. Everybody must care and respect the feelings of his dear one that is wife. You may have listn that no life without wife. Parents of both should be respected but we should not forget the importance of wife. She is the best friend after marriage. To live a happy life all members of family be get understood by appropraite articles which to be published by us in various magzines. Wish you best married life. Myself Amit Jakhar belongs to district Jhunjhunu (Rajasthan) and serving in Army.
