I am 28, a highly ambitious, working woman.he tarnsition from a full time mom to a hard-core professional HR was very tough. My husband, the man with a heart of Gold, is the one behind my success despite of motherhood blues.My daughter is an angel.Even after staying away from her the whole day, this 20 month old wonder, after i go home immediately welcomes me with a warm hug and narrates me so many things she did the whole day.I miss her and so does she. We do get some qulaity time but then ther are several things i am responsible for at home as it is nopt a nuclear family.Cook, clean, serve the in-laws...if not I'll have taunts and comments of being selfish and irresponsible....listen to the sad stories of the past of my MIL...constant cribbing...etc.I wish i could get all the time to spend with my baby....well, i hope life's takes a U-Turn soon and get me a job in a different city so that i can live with just my immediate family.As of now I am a Manager-HR in a rputed company with too much work load, A mom of a demanding 20 month old girl, a wife, a daughter-in-law cum nurse maid of orthodox and conservative parents-in-law, bhabhi of a free-livind brother-in-law, a woman who does not have time even trim my hair and look groomed, a human whose dar too mechanical not even enought time to sleep......the list continues. But at the end of the day, after so much compromise and hard work, when my daughter refuses to be with anyone except me after i reach home, i feel proud of t
A great and nice article by Soma Sarkar, I am working and i have a 8 month old baby, initially i used to be apprehensive about leaving my daughter in the creache,but now i am glad i did it.She loves going there in the mornings coz she has kids always playing around her........
I believe the autor has got it all wrong. Let me ask one thing," Why is it so important to have a career?" If you say self-confidence and indepenence, well then after 60 do both of them go for a six? Or is it that housewives lack them completely. You work so that you can earn for yourself and your family. If there is no family all the money earning will lose significance. Well, I don't include here the utterly selfish, self-centered and workaholic types. The problem is that we have attached too much importance to money, more than what is justified. And compromise is when you leave something higher for a lower thing. Sacrifice is its opposite. If you can't give your whole time to your baby, better not have them. It is easy to give instructions: don't listen to tantrum etc etc. But ask any parent how practical is it? Life doesn't works in the manner as pointed out in the last passage of the report. Life is lived in phases. If you think now is the time for you to work, then work. But when you decide to have a baby, please let your child be the only priority, your only work.
RE:Utterly a worng idea
by Sweta on Apr 13, 2006 03:05 PM
Rohit u r utterly sick- a typical conservative man who considers a woman as a doormat only.
Instead of giving such high funda philosophy y don't u do it urself? U leave ur career & raise ur kid. The child is the responsibility of both the parents.
It is because of male chauvinist pigs like u dat working moms face so many probs in their lives.
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by on Jun 16, 2007 12:45 PM
I agree 100% with Sweta. career is definitely important as family. yuor kid will be proud of you when they grow up and look up to you as their role models. Independence, confidence, money and contacts are all at the end of the day for our children. I am thankful to God for gifting me a hubby who's a better parent than me and he loves to do almost everything that i do for my 20 month old baby daughter.Tehy make a great team, play, eat and sleep together.Well, he works mostly during the nights.He inspires me to move up the ladder of success and IS THE MAN BHIND MY SUCCESS and smile. While at work, I'm not worrying. He not only takes care of my girl, but packs my breakfast does not demand service from me and men like Rohit should learn something from him. Husbands are thats why called "BETTER HALF". Together we can and we will build a home with love.laughter and of course lots of money so that our kidz can have a great life ahead.
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by rahul on Feb 14, 2007 05:45 PM
I think you had a very bad experience, that is the reason for using filthy language. This is not the way you speak against men. Not all men are the same. What would be your reaction when we say that females are blah blah blah.. You need to resolve your personal issues at your residence and not in public.
i m an working women aged 31 i am having a four year old son who is very mischeiveous.its a nuclear family,my hubby is working in mumbai and i am working in Goa. My mom stays with me .i dont want to leave my child to a creach , i had a servant who used to take care of him. he is off to school in mornings and by the time he returns i m home for lunch, i feed him and put him to sleep as my servant has left. I take care of him in every possible way but he is becoming very stubborn may be because of my mom as she does what he want her to do.She doesnt listen to me when i try to correct her.i am worried aboust it and secondly i m worried about his studies now that he is small its ok once he grows up how to pay attention to his studies since i return home only at 6.30 pm . kindly advise me on his stubborness and his studies.
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by soma on Apr 05, 2006 12:04 AM
Hi Palak, I need a more detailed description of the problem before I can make any suggestions. But, you could start by asking yourself some questions. Try to answer them as honestly as possible and maybe as you start answering them you'll also come up with the solution!
Since when did this stubbornness start? Try to think of the occassions when he has been stubborn...what triggered them, what are the things he refuses to do, etc?
Mostly, childern get stubborn when they feel insecure, unloved. Are you going through any tension at home, does the child feel stressed out in school, etc?
Is your child playing enough, does he have friends, do you or your husband play with him/give him ample attention and encouragement?
Regarding your mom...does she genuinely enjoy the child's presence, does she feel stressed out with him, what are the activities she engages him with, etc. Also, have you tried explaining her in detail how giving in to all your child's demands is actually harmful for him. What exactly makes her do it?
I'd suggest you take one step at a time. Solve the stubbornness problem first, studies can follow. Hope this helps. thanks soma
