I am a student studing my Masters in a college in Pune which is affiliated to University of Pune.
I am for past 2 years here since my course is MCA which spans to 3 years. This is my final year and i can now image how tough it was when i first came to Pune from my native place in Goa for the first time ever.
I stayed in my college hostel which was few distance away from my college campus.Even after having room mate i always felt lonely because of the culture and social differences. The ETHICAL and PRINCIPLE mis- matches used to take its toll and always leave me frustrated and disappointed.
Having stayed alone for the first time away from mother and granny ,both of them to which i am very close to and shared the whole days incident added more to my feeling of loneliness.
When i recollect those days of loneliness, a cold wave runs through me and feel it to be a nightmare.
But then i learnt many things and i learned to be practical and have a professional approach towards whatever came in my way.
Few things i have to suggest to my friends who are alone or plan to stay alone for study purpose or for job is :-
1) Ask your sub conscious mind before you take any step.
2) Find time to Analyse your self at the end of the day.
3) Stick firmly on your goal and dont get distracted by the surrounding influences.
I work for National insurance Company Ltd for the last 30 years and I was deputed to our Hong kong branch. I am now at Hong kong alone for the last 3 years. initially it has been tough time not only to live alone here but to stay away from family. But I have realised that living alone is an excellent opportunity to improve the confidence to face the world. Living alone at Hong Kong is particularly a challenge as it is prohibitively costly to engage the domestic helper. It is essential that I learn to do everything myself. Moreover being vegetarian I have to face more problems. But gradually I developed the determination and courage to lead a comfortable life. My advice to any one living alone is not to feel despair. it is absolutely possible for any one to learn the basic duties required like cooking & cleaning at home. Initially one is bound to err but over the period we learn and may excel. it is easy to accopmplish the tasks if we enjoy doing it. If we realise that with the kind of exposure we get with our life like this we can face any situation in life.
Hey guys i lived in oune for three years and it was awesome.i got to learn a lot right from managing finances,home,people and a lot.i bet it is a different kind of management education.
but there is always the flip side.u always miss mummies ghar ka khana...the comforts that u get at home...and the list can b real long..
i feel that m lucky tht got a chance to stay away frm home..i njoied my freedom..those saturday nights with friends at out flat..those coming of neighbours and asking us to maintain silence...arguements with our flat owner...goin for coffee at nights...goin for bike rides with friends..and all...so guys cheeer up nd live ur lives to the fullest!!!!
Hi All, I am staying alone for last 2 yr here in US. First it was difficult, but loneliness taught me much more things. First I started cooking on myself and now much more improved and love to cook and learning more on cooking. Main entertainment for me is to watch all Indian movies and video songs which I download from internet. Browsing for latest electronic gadgets and try to finding the cheap one available in the market. Talk to my mom and sisters on alternate days over phone, most of earning are spend here. I have to look for an alternative way to minmize my calling card expense. Now the new things sprung in killing my time is to watch mostly all hit shows which is telecasted on NBC, ABC, FOX, PAX, WB TV channels. But somewhere one small happiness is caused by loneliness, nobody bugs me to do that, to do this, y r u doing this? Y doesnt u does that? Get up early in the morning, don't sleep late. I am the decision maker and I am the executor. Sometimes it is really fun but sometimes I am very much missing India and my family. Now I am very much MISSING the diwali festival.
NJOY life wherever & whoever you are. Lakshminarayan, PA-USA.
Living alone. I agree with views of Mr. Thakker from London.
I too remember my initial days and left home for job. First few months, I stayed in my friend's room. I was doing part time job, just to meet my expenses , mess bill and part of room rent But problem is whenever his realtives come to visit him, I have to go to some other friends room with my baggage to stay there 4 or 5 days and return back.They were all settled in good jobs . Some times, I knew that they weren't conmfortable with my stay with them, but we were 'best' friends during college days.
Later on some differences arise. So I used to leave the room early morning and return late , just to sleep. It was a hurting experiences . Finally, I decided to stay alone. I took a room for a rent of Rs. 450 /- ( my earnings per month was Rs 1000 /-). I got a freedom from all those humiliating experiences. To save money, Instead of going by city buses, I used to walk a lot a day, taking one time meals a day and surviving on bread during night times. Really this made me tough. I felt lonely some times, but with hope that I might get a better job.
I was like that doing small jobs for 3 years, now setled comfortably
I am Niveditha,24,working as a software engineer in Amsterdam.
For me living alone has been an amazing experience ..... it has to be for a person who has never been away from home before and having such a wonderful family as I do where everything is just taken care of without my knowledge.
I have become a responsible individual now I guess, in the sense I think a hundred times before buying anything, I try to get up early and be on time to the office (without somebody having to push me into the bathroom..which is the case when I am with my family), I have become an excellent cook, I manage all the money matters by myself.
My stay was arranged by my company so did not have to worry abt that...but then I miss my maid a lot..whenever I am cleaning & cooking. I think every one should be on their own for atleast an year, you become confident and self-reliant by doing so.Everytime you have a problem u tend to think on your own as to how to tackle it instead of asking advices from friends and family...which is a confident booster. And also you will know the value of money, family , friends.But loneliness bites sometimes but then music and TV comes to rescue.
4) Friends: Join some social group. Here in Singapore, I joined Gujarati club. So you can join some club. If you like reading, you can join for some Library. 5)Money: This is real important factor. Since you are out to world, you will meet much kind of people, some are kanjoos, and some are spend thrift. Etc.But dont Forget your limit. Plan your spending properly. Before giving money to friends; just decide which one do u like most, money or friend. I am telling you outOf my personal experience. So, try and see that you have alternative, when someone asks you for money help.
Thats a big list friend, so enjoy your stay and explorer the life Kamal
