Hi Everbody... Follow take it easy policy....Good's and bad's are inevitable in everbodies's life .Findout the goodness in the bad's you will start enjoing the life and loneliness is nothing in your life.
Well I read most had stayed in Singapore and Dubai. I am born and breed Singaporean an Indian descend, we practice Hindu cultures and rites. In my career I have been posted to few countries but quiet never felt lonely in places like London & Chicago, some how rather I managed to find things to do. I am able to self do all my works and chores, we were brought up by doing all essential needs by self. However, my last posting to India for last four years was traumatic - place to live Delhi, but need to travel to Mumbai, Bangalore and Chennai. The first few days I stayed at Vasant Vihar club and some hotel. Then, power failure, dripping waters, very poor sanitary, chaotic traffic, bad pollutions etc etc...........what can I say it was cultural shock...in the beginning I tend to lose weight, I was going through a rough ride. Eventually settle down at Saket, good landlord had high regards for Singaporeans, they helped me to arrange for maid, to clean up the place......simple cooking, pressing ( ironing) began to settle done then become very lonely....handicap was language - could not speak Hindi, but hit up with locals, I go for jogging - see movies regularly. Surf net, hook up with some local Indians then slowly bump into Singaporean - what else we had ball of time than on. I went further to set up Singapore club Delhi, current president.......so if you find yourself lonely try to contribute to your host nation. The Singapore club Delhi has donated to Tsunami and adopted a charity home. As Singaporean I have been enjoying the hospitality of India barring some nasty incidents but I had return back to the host in some tangible and intangible ways......so look up at yourself and ask what have for your country and the host nation. M.M. Kunasekaran New Delhi
I have been reading all the messages posted on the subject on your web site. I am currently living alone away from my country in Ivory Coast( Cote D Ivoire) as apart of UN Peace Keeping Mission.
Living alone is tough but it makes you a better person ,one tends to learn a lot about things which are taken for granted back home. There are bound to be problems and one has to be prepared to face them boldly. My advice to people who are likely to move out to experience this beautiful world on there own is that you will have to fend for your self and there will be no help available if you cant help yourself, so be mentally prepared and expect the worst. Some of the things you can do to make your stay comfortable are:-
Language: Try and learn the language of the country you are about to move to, it is the best way to make your stay comfortable abroad. You will be surprised most of the people will neither speak nor understand English.
Loneliness: You have to device ways to keep yourself busy otherwise it becomes difficult to survive. Make a few friends; find your country people join different cultural activity centers and always keep in touch with your loved ones back home.
Cooking: You are bound to miss the Indian Food so its better if you could cook some of your favorite dishes. Do carry some Indian spices along.
All the best Folks you all are Welcome in the world of loners!
I have travelled quite a bit in past 6 years and I have kept myself busy and entertained all the time, being alone or with friends.
I have a few tips:
1. Do not compromise on food. have good meals and preferabley cook atleast once a day on your own. This would not only keep you busy when your are alone at home but also lead to a new found hobby and also reduce chances of bad health.
2.Develop a sense of friendship with neighbours in the apartment. This helps a lot especially when one falls sick/ is in uregent need of money/ is in urgent need of being dropped to office/college/ etc.
3.Try to rent in apartment rather than individual house. Life is easy from maintenance point of view (electricals, plumbing, etc.) as the society takes care of it.
4.Try atleast to have a TV and subscribe to a newspaper.. they keep u busy anytime.
5.Call up your near and dear ones over phone/ chat with them a couple of times a week, atleast. Your would never feel being away from them.
6. Make a habit of cleaning up your stuff and keeping organized. This makes the life a lot too easy and you become a good manager... you would not need to run for your things while leaving for office/college.
The article was great and bought the facts for living alone. I am living alone for the last 9 years and I know the hardships faced and the thrills of living alone. However, I personally feel it makes a person more self sufficient and matured with decision making capabilities.
i was just reading through all the comments. i'm living alone for the first time...away from the entire country. it's so depressing to live this way. trust me, everyone. no place is better than india..no place better than home.
i'm learning the everyday lessons of living by myself. putting up with an obnoxious room mate, living on the edge with respect to money, not feeling loved, cared..nothing. but i let reality and pragmatism stare into my eye..and keep reminding myself that i'm here to study. that is my goal and i have to work towards that.
please don't go away from home if you're soft at heart. life is too short to bottle it up in some other land where you live all by yourself. i hate my ambitious self now, but i know i won't be complete without it.
i'm just waiting to finish studying...just waiting to get back home forever. ironically, it's just been 2 months..and my course schedule is 2 years. i have to sail through it...i miss india so much. i never knew what patriotism meant before this.
RE:so true!
by shabnam on Nov 06, 2005 08:26 PM
ohh,
i can remember my college days by ur words thankgod they are over now
i wish that GOD should give u lots of patience and courage to come out of all ur issues
but dont forget all this issues will come with lessons and once u hav learnt with the lesson u r master of those issues, thats the only stategy which helped me in those long years
RE:so true!
by anupkumar on Nov 06, 2005 08:42 PM
Hi Harini, You are right, there is no place better than your home! But hold on..you are going through the most difficult stage..those initial few months! Once you are thru that, you may feel lot more comfortable and after those two years, you may very well be all set to settle there itself! It all depends on situations every individual goes through in the new place. I am in germany on a two year stay and I have just crossed those dpressing initial months...!! Good luck with your studies... anup
I started living alone when i was 18 and since then i believe that is the best thing i have done and i thank the fact that my parents had to move abroad due to a new job. In the beginning it was difficult coordinating all the responsiblility that comes with living alone with my engineering studies but once you get the hang of it,its amazing. Most people(elderly)are sure a teenager living alone is led astray by bad company. The trick is not to let it get to you and knowing the right from wrong and making an effort not to let your parents down.Try to think out whatever you do and take the best decision. This experience developed my character and gave me the confidence required to face life alone. I now live and work in Muscat. Initially i was allocated an accomodation by my employer but individualistic that i am i didn't like living with the same guys i see at work. So i moved out and i now live alone again.The best thing about that is i can do as i please and i will not be burdened by the yoke of rules i did not make.I admit its tough but living alone is the best thing i have done in my life. It develops a positive outlook towards life and teaches you self help.
