me and my husband do share all our thoughts,evetyrhing included , but still we have problems when we think abiut what one has said.some say that little bit secrecy is advisable in marriage , but we enjoy our frredom of thinking and freedom of sharing.ofcourse my uhsband and i , both have very understanding nature so it helps
RE:we do share
by Kaushik Das on May 23, 2005 02:00 PM
I think, openness helps in the long run. But at times, one must be tactful of opening up unpleasant truths.
why do men always have to be blamed for not sharing responsibility for taking care of home and child.I start from my home @ 9:30 pm and come home dazed at 10:30 -11 pm.so my wife always complain iam late and not bearing responsiblity. Ialways tk car e during sat,sun,but she never allows me doing it,but soehow force my self but still she complaints.Men these days have changed a lot ,if women are successful,its becos men have given them a way.BUt when will the women change?> especially of he complaining attitude adn always finding fault with women.My job demands me lot of time in office and getting earned pretty for it.so men make sacrifce of their happiness to get their wife and child be happy always,but still women complaint.When will the Indian Women change>?>?>>
RE:On Man sharing responsibility
by Vipin Malhotra on May 23, 2005 08:52 PM
Complaining like this is a never ending cycle.If you and your wife decide to "honestly support" each other either by silent nods or by discussing things out, you will slowly realise that the very woman who once looked like a problem has herself become the solution. This is because women and men think differently. Women, in general,need your emotional support a lot more than financial support.You just start listening to her without immediately trying to give solutions.Only this much effort on your part will bring about a sea change in her.Give it a try.
RE:On Man sharing responsibility
by pravina on May 23, 2005 06:11 PM
Mr Bharath i strongly recoomend that you spend one day in your wife's shoes before declaring that women complain ? then let us c u complaining abt going out 2 work n making money ? ok ? just act nlet us see wat u have 2 say before u make stmnts abt how women complain btw u seem 2 have conveniently forgotten that only becoz ur mother has slogged 2 make it easy for you, are u compalining abt women today stop complaining n look around women dont have a calk walk in this country run by male chauvinists and according to their whims and fancies
RE:On Man sharing responsibility-to Mr.Bharath
by Banu on May 20, 2005 07:14 PM
Hi Mr.Bharathraj, You seem to be very frustrated! Let me ask you if your wife told you on any day that the salary you are earning was not enough. If yes and if she says so again, just ask her to get a job and earn. Maybe she'll realise the hardships of going to work.
But, why do you put all the allegations on your wife alone. Why don't you just sit and discuss what your priorities are? There should be transparency as the article says, between you and your wife.
And please don't generalise like "Why do women always complain". If you respect your wife, she'll respect you. You reap, what you sow.
A very common grievance that many women have is that men don't adequately share the responsibilities of home and child, leaving the women feeling disgruntled and angry.
This anger often finds inappropriate channels that further damage the relationship.
RE:u will never agree arun
by Nabanita Das on May 23, 2005 02:26 PM
Dear Arun , The thing is that guys always thing they are the creater of earth but they forget that without a women there will be no life on earth. U dont agree or u agree its ur headache but a truth cant become lie. U r telling that women doenot know how to share , how can u tell that. Mother , a women who gives birth to a child and its not the guys . They give birth to the child after keeping the infant in the womb for 9 months , feeding the baby , taking care of the baby till he grows up fully. He gives all her love and care, time etc to her child and if it is not sahring then what is sharing ????? Can u please explain me ???
And at the same time if the child is successful the credit goes to the father and vice versa. I think u have to agree to that. Its up to UUUU. But dont ever tell that women cant share. Then i will tell that u dont know how to share. Women always shares her love , care , respect etc not to her child only but also to every body in the family including husband , mother - in - law , mother , father - in - law , father and ofcourse his HUSBAND. Still now the INDIAN WOMEN have not changed so much that they dont know how to share.I am sure ur opinion change.
