If u have a healthy understanding between both wheel of life. Understand the feeling of ur wife and give her to proud on u. Same thing happens with ur hus. Talk freee on family matter and solve together. Such relation is only depends on Sex but it is a essential part of life. Love in both marriage makes life successfull.
By the grace of God I am very happy with my marriage .Although it is love marriage and naturally it was against of my in-laws wish.Immediately after my marriage My motherinlaw started misbehave with me in all respect but time have proved her wrong. Thanks a lot to my husband who was with me all ups and downs. And I know he will be always there for me.
Actually my husband loves me very much, but problem is that our view are not match to each other. even you can say he is very kind hearted man but problem is that unneccessarlily he want to be good.
hello! well i have lot to discuss. my hubby is less educated than me & thats why he has different thinking. he takes no interest in family like providing facility to family. in other way he runs away from responsibility. though its a love marriage. it is not at all successful. its me who is running the house. he never thinks of earning. please let me know how to change him & make him a responsible person.
RE:how to make my marriage successful
by Venkat on May 23, 2005 02:49 AM
Dear Usha, How long hv u been married?If not too long,were u not aware of his unemployment/wayward ways?(since u hv mentioned that yours was a love marriage).Pls remember the GOLDEN rule to make a marriage work-i.e. the communication channel between the couple.I am not clear about the specifics of yr case but I firmly believe(on personal experience)that if you are patient,communicative and willing to swallow your pride-things will work out beautifully!
RE:how to make my marriage successful
by eeshwar on May 23, 2005 03:56 AM
hi, i think already you did a wonderful job, hats off for you. It seems he could know to work to live. some persons naturally dormant or doesnot want change thier life stiles. so frirst though its hard for change, if it happens then it goes smoothly. what i am suggesting is try to show some work to him, dont discourage him. Good Luck
RE:how to make my marriage successful
by Nikhs on May 21, 2005 09:28 PM
Nice Article, But feels sorry about the jayashree and subha, i belive the way out and to make there marriage a successfull is communication. There shud be a good communication and happening between a husband and wife. Try to respect eachother.
husbands never understands a womens they always try to dominate they only beleive in physical relationship i am not happy with my married life i feel insecured
RE:not happy with love marriage
by akash on May 21, 2005 03:09 PM
hii jayashree,
marriage does not mean only physical sex. You must ask your hubby to learn/read from books that it is more than that.An women is not a beast. He should control himself. It's ur failure not to teach this atr properly.
RE:not happy with love marriage
by bindu dhall on Apr 03, 2007 01:21 PM
Hi, i m sonia i am also very much agreed to your views, this is the main problem of married life, but no one can give any proper solutions to this, if men are more understanding and more responsible person then maximum problems will be resolved from hundred of married lifes, actually womens are always patients, cool and understanding and also less egoistics.
RE:not happy with love marriage
by subha on May 21, 2005 03:16 PM
This issue of yours is common in all, even if its not a love marraige, There is no common solution adressed to these issue. When an issue crops up , sit in his/her shoes and think.. if not permanent u mite get a temp relief. this might seem to be forcing a bit, dont worry u will get used to it
First Issue of having nothing in common;so what? Isnt there a saying "opposite poles attract"! It is just an illusion to say that there is nothing in common,if so, make something common between the two of you. Cultivate interest in each other's likes and dislikes,If you are sincere in your efforts to continue in a fruitful marriage.
Second Issue is 'we have love for each other but dont understand each other'; according to me, this statement is absurd to say the least. First comes understanding and only then love!
We fight a lot. So what! "fights" & "reconcilation after that is the sweetest 'fruit of fight'.
Fighting means you are not keeping your 'differences in the recesses of your mind and thinking and rotting your mind! You are coming out 'in the open' and trying to 'iron things out'.Isnt that BETTER! What do you say? Reader Madhavi
RE:Three issues in a marriage
by Nitya on May 22, 2005 08:06 PM
Hi
As far as the fights are concerned , I feel,they are necessary evils.There exists difference of opinion in every relationship. Do not we have views different from our mother or father? When we fight, our beliefs and values are expressed emphatically.So, I do support your views on fights and reconcillation.
Hi, i feel understanding with respect to the other spouse comes out of love; it wont work the other, i personally feel. Understanding is at the mind/intellect level; guess for a marriage to work out successfully, both involved should go a step higher - that is look at things from spiritual level - that is to love - means to accept, to embrace each other; which if done will allow understanding to blossom automatically.......
