when we look into financial matters we may get scared...but when it happens....trust me the joy,he happiness having second child....u know its unbelievable...definitely we should give company to our first baby !!
Hi. As we speak, my sister is sitting in her house making the decision to go to the doctor NOW (her egg is ready for a girl) or not. She is torn and terrified of having a second child but she wants a girl (she would be having sex selection procedure). I have a single child and dont know what to tell her!!!
I was raised single, but my wife had a brother. I too initially felt that raising a second child would be expensive, but my wife strongly felt that there should be atleast two. Already families in these modern times are shrinking. Its important for us to leave them with company when they grow up & we are not around.
I think the writer has a taken a very one dimensional view about having children. The writer's first statement about people who do not want to have children 'dont know what they are saying' is very immature and dismissive. She should firstly learn to respect other people's choice in life and also broaden her perspective before she attempts to write articles. People today have the ability to choose how they want to live their life and it should be respected. There is no one set manner of living anymore. My understanding from the article is that she did not exercise that choice and maybe she is now trying to justify her situation. All the best to her for her dream for 10 children, I for one don't envy her at all!
RE:a very one dimensional view
by kajal dhar nagar on May 01, 2008 03:01 PM
Kajal as you say that the author has a one dimensional view the same is ur view...she is not offending anyone but the Truth is if u dont have kids u r incomplete even though u may justify it by saying that career is important and we can have kids later...This LATER never comes and then u have to depend on IVF or adoption to fill that void...
What i feel you have only mentioned emontional factor, but other factors like finacial conditions, population dynamics, other raising 2 kids when nuclear family system etc. i feel ideally not advisable to have 2nd one.
The above subject kept me wondering but after reading Zelda's wonderful article I feel so much better and clear about what I want!Thank you Zelda & rediff too.
