I would have taken classes for many but because of time.I have decided to write book about all these in my fifties. All I want to say is it is the upbringing which matters.90% of society rules formed for women all over the world are wrong.A woman can come up in life like a man keeping her feminine nature eg Mrs Clinton, Nooye etc.esp.now a days every work is brain related.
Re: Training of People required in childhood
by Anand sodo on Jun 28, 2010 12:41 PM
As there are men who are 'IDIOTS' by birth (born with very weak brain) there are 'Genius' women too. I agree with you that in every society the rules are normally anti-female. The only poit you have forgotten is that - women are more responsible for these rules than the men(women give birth and bring up both the male and female offsprings in all the societies!!!and it is they who inculcate this 'dominance theory!) of course the man who is getting undue advantage naturally does not want to let-go off such an opportunity!!! Nooyi and clinton are both 'ZERO' examples of 'Knowledge' may be kalpana chawla would have been a thousand times better example (though a small example) - I do not mean to demean the two ladies exampled by you BUT they have more of 'OPPORTUNITY' smelling in their favour than TALENT - Do you really think that the HOD every department in the world is - the most talented? - I have seen 'DUFFERS' being promoted because they suit the 'requirements' of their bossess (call it chamchagiri or give it any other name)BUT at the same time I would like to clarify that - All HODs are duffers would also be a TOTALLY wrong statement.
Re: Re: Training of People required in childhood
by Murali Mohan on Jun 29, 2010 08:53 AM
Are you a Bose-DK bong? Eccentric thinking and $$it hole brain
Girls are poor in saving money. So man must take over .they just want to spend all money on cloths and cosmetic..Recently my wife told me that she need to straighten her hair for 10000 Rs...I didn't agree.. If she has the control of financial things, this will be her first priority. The hair fixing need 10k per year, which is more than our car insurance ...
Re: Girls are poor in saving money. So man must take over
by sumit kain on Jun 28, 2010 12:25 PM
Ha ha ha... I'm Amused and agree with u at the same time. This is more a norm in women!
Men and women have different ways of looking at the same thing. Most (not all) women are instinctive and conservative, men more rational, but risk takers. It makes sense to sit in and decide family goals and have a rational plan that both will contribute to. In my family, my wife has the discipline and maintains the books, I discuss products with her - she has an amazing way of providing perspectives. It would be stupid to lose this advantage. In any case, 2 working people in a family both contribute to a family future and cannot view it differently.
Re: Family money
by Richa Kanal on Jun 29, 2010 10:00 AM
Yours are the only views in this entire forum which are good. How true it is that a vehicle moves only when all tires function together. Similarly instead of demeaning each other both should sit together and sort it out.
I suggest rediff to do some specific research before publishing these non - sense articles for novices to write comments here!!! It is true that wives have their own right on their money at the same time they have full right on their husband's money & finance also. But it is true vice-versa also. All couple have their own understanding and these learned couples do'nt seek opinion from rediff or these boggey consultants on personal matters. Once the differences arise between couples then these articles are useless and normally it leads to divorce ( if no children) or loss of understanding and peace of mind (if children are there) disturbing personal lives. As a mature couple I have seen hundreds of couples in good harmony and managing finances better than individuals whether Man or Woman.
Re: Have you done any research on this topic????
by SKvel on Jun 28, 2010 12:02 PM
Media needs sensation to keep themselves alive. You will find TV media trying to find from grief family members their feelings esp someone would have lost father/mother/son/daughter. They never feel bad ask such questions. There is no point blaming media, people should be more aware and conscious to ensure there is a balanced decision taken on family matters taking into confidence the family members. Family should be a unit and husband,wife and children are members and it should be an internal affairs and sort out differences within four walls.
Re: Re: screw money
by sumit kain on Jun 28, 2010 12:32 PM
MiRa described the purpose of ur coming into existence very aptly. U amused and astounded me Rahul Gandhi!
Re: Re: screw money
by Tarun Srivastava on Jun 28, 2010 12:42 PM
LOL, you have made my day Mira. I mean I couldn't stop laughing....good intelligent and prompt answer. Thanks!
Dont marry a software girl , they are real devils in disguise, let cheaters and handsome rogues marry them. Also high earning girls. They destroy themselves and everybody else.
Re: Re: Dont marry a software girl
by sanjay tal on Jun 28, 2010 12:02 PM
Need not be a wife, can be any girlin a family. was a msg of Caution. A hell that could be avoided.
Re: Re: Re: Dont marry a software girl
by sumit kain on Jun 28, 2010 12:35 PM
Though I quite don't really understand as how a 'Software' Girl can destroy herself and everybody else in her family. R they engineered to delete all the Data from theirs and everybody's life, Mr. Sanjay Tal?
Re: Re: Re: Re: Dont marry a software girl
by sanjay tal on Jun 28, 2010 12:59 PM
They are ignorant of family values so they get destroyed. They ruin their personal lives. Since they consider themselves as extraordinary they are closed to comman sense. They obstruct all sensible decisions. Cannot be kicked out of the family as other good family members willing suffer silently. So no progress. Only negative growth.
Re: Re: Money is money
by sumit kain on Jun 28, 2010 12:38 PM
I see Amen that cooking and washing is all thats there in ur head regarding domestic responsibilties. However, whoever can do a particular job well shud be take responsibilty for it. Is it that u look down upon cooking and washing by men? I know of several senior bureaucrats and leading businessmen actually supervising 'Cooking and washing' and indulging in them personally as well. Think, what u speak, lest u sound like a moron.
after marriage its not yours or mine its ours. whether money or decision!!!! so her husband should have involved her before taking decesion on any money matter of the family
Re: decesions should be mutual
by Milind Sovani on Jun 28, 2010 11:46 AM
If her husband is not spending her money for his personal enjoyment and realy investing it for future it is finally in her own interest. She should get 25% for her expenditure and rest is saving is good equition. Provided in that situation all house hold expenditure must be met by husband ( Grossory, Milk, Phone & Electricity Bill, School Fees, etc.) All the best one day the couple will be wealthy.
Barely a couple of generations ago, women used to consider investment in gold. specfically gold jewellery as the only worthy financial investment and the time tested bulwark against inflation, losses in other people's business. etc. But now, with education rather than illiteracy being the rule among women in India, there can be no excuse for women continuing with the gold standard exclusively. There is hardly any use consulting one's parents about investments unless they are reasonably educated,themselves.It is only when this type of hopeless guidance is resorted to, that the husband becomes an inevitable decision maker after marriage. Self reliance in financial matters should begin early.
