A lot of guys and girls here are commenting about his asking her to make a coffee? What is so bad? Don't girls or their fathers ask us men how much we earn? Do we have a car, our own house? Apparently these are very liberating questions. I wonder if the same girl would have married an infantry captain in the Assam Rifles. He was from Ireland, a techie I suppose. She could have backed out if she wanted.
Wishing you happy blessed married life. Nurtuing the relationship for long term is very important, it needs lot of effort and daily attention for both sides.
Quite a few on board are ranting on the chauvinistic behaviour of the guy, I think its more of immaturity than anything else. Youth is brash, many do learn with time, patience is the key. If just one incident or remark is the ultimate then there will be high incidence of broken relationships.
Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by Opinionated Man on Dec 08, 2010 12:06 PM
Out of immaturity you demand the girl to make coffee for you, when tea is already served, just to test her culinary skills???
Re: Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by lakubo on Dec 08, 2010 12:21 PM
no human is an angel, if theres more good than bad, accept it. If the bad of a person is replusive keep away from him.
The morning was a disruptive deception, noon and evening have made the night a pleasant one for the couple, so let them be happy.
Re: Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by lakubo on Dec 08, 2010 12:22 PM
The morning was a disruptive deception, noon and evening have made the night a pleasant one for the couple, so let them be happy.
Re: Re: Re: Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by lakubo on Dec 08, 2010 12:50 PM
yes dude, the day has started. The day has proven the year and hopefully will prove right for the decades to come.
life is good, enjoy it, people are nice cherish them.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by Opinionated Man on Dec 08, 2010 12:57 PM
I more than cherish life, but not at the cost of looking down upon my life partner in any way.
Re: Re: Re: Re: The couple is happy, so let them be
by Chauvinist on Dec 09, 2010 03:03 AM
Opinionated Man, Why do you think the guy is chauvinist? The guy had known the girl for a while now (through chats) and for the kind of cute girl she is he could be playing a silly prank on her. He did not judge her from her culinary skills. Look at her, "god promise he never was angry with me int he one year of togetherness", she is cute and he likes to bring forth the cuteness even more and so I think he plays his pranks. I think they are perfect, made for eachother. I wish them all the happiness.
Re: Nice one
by Sonal on Dec 08, 2010 12:19 PM
Yes dear,Wish u very very all the best Sunita. just like we are ignoring all the bad memories try to ignore all bad comments .. make one Mantra in life "ctrl alt Delet" Wish you Happy married Life.
Re: Loser
by anand on Dec 08, 2010 11:10 AM
I am right now going to get married and could relate to your comments. Your story was great. I enjoyed it, especially the climax :-).One thing you should know and that is, this rediff comments are written by a lot of losers and depressed guys.They will never like to hear a success story, what will feed their depression is a break up story or a sentimental story where there is a tragedy. What ultimately matters more than looks is the comfort and faith you will have with your husband. You seems to be at high comfort with him. The high level of comfortness comes with acceptance as you are. And acceptance comes with love.I would say you have a successful marriage :-) wish you a happy married life.
Re: Loser
by Sunita on Dec 07, 2010 11:38 PM
:) Thank you for your comment. Its not self esteem or self respect. When you love someone very very much, its some kind of possiveness that you have, and i think you wont realise it till you love somebody to an extent that even a thought of he saying no, kills you. Grow up. Its relation we are talking about. I am very successfull in my career life, and as per my husband i am the best cook. And also you are unaware of indian culture i believe.Even though girls have climbed Mt. Everest, they still are shy in front of thier would be. and if you dont know any such girl, i think you are not in a right company.
Re: Re: Loser
by prabha on Dec 08, 2010 10:55 AM | Hide message
First you grow up. What does Indian culture says? You will teach us, you looser. You are hardly one year of marriage and you are giving your experience with us who has already given more than 2 decades in married life,with a very much successful career and a wonderful husband who shares all the domestic as well as the parental responsibilities with me. So you don't have to guide us. Nowadays almost all women are successful, so don't tell that. If you have married that MCP, it is your wish. But don't generalise everymen like your husband,
We are in the right company only. You have not got a good spouse. I pity you, and feel sorry for you that you have married to such a stupid person
Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Sunita on Dec 08, 2010 12:35 PM
:) I dont know if i should laugh at you or say something to you. My husband is The best husband in world, and am happeist person on this earth now. He appreiciates everything i do, helps me in evrything. It may sound ordinary for you,but he is the best thing ever happened to me. In my one year marriage, i dont remember a single incident when he got angry on me. and believe god promise its true. and after reading your comments i felt little pity on you, it seems like in 2 decades of marriage, and would also suggest one thing, even though yopu said you have spent two decades of in married life, you dont have this much sense that you cannot call anybody's husband stupid, i pity your husband. Sorry.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by prabha on Dec 08, 2010 12:46 PM | Hide message
why, husband's are not Gods, thy are our best freinds, Sunitha, If he is stupid he is. You don't have to feel pity towards my husband, because we together only wrote those comments about your husband, Even I tell you in our office people were literally moking at your story. You think after reading your story about your husband,will any normal person respect your husband, first of all you should not have written the story itself. You people have made a mokery of yourselves. Thanks for your story
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by kaushik chatterjee on Dec 14, 2010 07:49 PM
Husbands may not be gods, but they are also not slaves of their wives. I would stop asking my wife about her culinary skills, the day she stopped asking me about my salary. Cheers.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Sunita on Dec 08, 2010 01:21 PM
Well, what can i say, people even commented on Mahatma gandhi, i still am nowhere. Its influence, surrounding, and mentality that matters. Cant stop people who them as they are sitting besides you. I wrote this story, because that was the best moment in my life, as i had seen him for the first time. I cannot forget that moment in my whole life. So i thoght i could share it with whole world.And yes i felt pity on your husband only because you use that stupid word so easily for husbands, so i thought, well, leave it. If you can't catch the emotion in that story just read and leave it. People have to grow up mentally not just physically.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by prabha on Dec 08, 2010 01:29 PM
Opiinioonated man did'nt comment on me, he commented on you Sunitha, you did'nt even know that, you have replied for that
Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Sonal on Dec 08, 2010 12:13 PM
just don’t understand Y people are going unnecessarily in controversies. Sunita just shared her marriage story with us. She didn’t asked anybody to believe it , she even not force anybody to read it. Then y people are giving any unrealistic comments? If you can’t be well-wishers y u want to be bad wishers? Just like A fabulous quote by Charlie Chaplin " Your pain may give laugh to somebody but your laugh should not give pain to anybody.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Opinionated Man on Dec 08, 2010 12:29 PM | Hide message
Lady, I understand the quote very well, but I am not laughing to give pain to anybody.
I am just unable to justify the act of the guy...
Why is it that girls have to put their best foot forward when a guy comes to see her???
Isn't it derogatory??
I had just pointed that out....
As I have mentioned earlier, I might be wrong, but form the first incident the guy seemed very chauvinistic.
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Chauvinist on Dec 09, 2010 03:05 AM
Opinionated Man, Why do you think the guy is chauvinist? The guy had known the girl for a while now (through chats) and for the kind of cute girl she is he could be playing a silly prank on her. He did not judge her from her culinary skills. Look at her, "god promise he never was angry with me int he one year of togetherness", she is cute and he likes to bring forth the cuteness even more and so I think he plays his pranks and has a great sense of humor. I think they are perfect, made for eachother. I wish them all the happiness.
Re: Re: Loser
by Opinionated Man on Dec 08, 2010 07:42 AM | Hide message
No one is saying anything about your point of view, but we are all sorry to get to know your husband's actions.
Please don't give us the Indian culture thing....
If you are happy being with him, fine for you...but his actions on the day he came to meet you is totally unjust.PERIOD.
Re: Re: Re: Loser
by sameer on Dec 08, 2010 09:09 AM
how you are going to get married...?? won't ur family going to meet ... won't you going meet her ... if not , then you are loser biggg time loser
Re: Re: Re: Re: Loser
by Opinionated Man on Dec 08, 2010 09:53 AM
Getting married is one thing, and demanding the girl to make coffee when tea is already served and asking questions as to who made what, why didnt u make this etc are too chauvinistic my friend...
I didnt like this man. I wouldnot have married him if given a chance. Haivng said that, may bee he was nervous too didnot know what to talk and is actually a great guy. The thing that matters is the girl is happy. Suni, you can take revenge on him if you please. After marriage it is womens rule at home..Good luck.
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