3. One thing I did was immerse myself in work. I don't know how it helped or whether it did. It was at best an "avoiding" exercise. But it helped me learn new things at work and grow in confidence professionally. 4. There are other avoiding exercises like thinking: She did not deserve me/I did not deserve her. But I think it is futile thinking on these lines. It is still better to analyse the problem and reach a root cause to avoid recurrences (remember, problems will always be there in a relationship - what matters is how you tackle them). Don't think of it too often but do think of it once in a while. There may be people who can shrug off such experiences in a jiffy but I doubt if they really loved their ones. All the rest will feel the pangs over and over again until time heals. The problem is time takes its own sweet time to heal. So, it is better to think and heal oneself. And think about solutions, not the problem itself. 5. Lastly, no matter what you do, if you really loved her, it will hurt for some time. So, expect it to.
It seems really strange that the person who I was so devoted to decided to live her life without me. It was difficult, very painful (sometimes, even now...)but now, that a few months have passed, things are a bit better. 1. Friends, only the close ones, helped. Talking to them helped. My advice is: don't talk to all and sundry. Not everyone understands. And people give some ridiculous suggestions like: forget her, destiny, etc., which confuse people even more. When the heart is sad, it wants something to cherish and support. It does not want to go into philosophical bitterness. 2. Try and analyse why it happened. Don't blame yourself only. It is the other's fault, too. I cannot believe in advice like: she was not meant for you. I believe that relationships can be made to work, however difficult that is. [But this very thing might have spoiled my relatinoship. My over-devotion might have made her think I was easy]. Analysis will help prevent recurrences. Nobody is perfect and nobody is perfect for you. You'll have to have someone who's more or less likely to lead a nice life with you. The rest is up to the both of you. Adjustments and compromise, expectations and problems do exist
hi!! it seems everything is going very well when our luv is with us but yes when some1 cheats u in luv u are all alone.even the best of ur friends hav no answer except that "get on with life".but the 1 who is going thru all this knows tht it is impossible for him even to continue his daily routine work. life becomes a hell but the person has no answer.I dont know if ever i could forget my luv or not but it is true that this period of my life is very painful. she is not with me physically but mentally she is with me always. why should i forget her.just because she cheats me.i want to live my complete life with those memories and get on with my life.i 2 hav many friends some supportive and some very mean.but i need all of them.i dont want to loose even my single friend coz today it has happened to me. no one has solution except that "life will go on and u hav to live" thats why i am living concentrating on my job(trying to enjoy my work sometimes) but why?even the best of people hav no answer(yet the few ans are:) 1.time is a great medicine 2.live for your family, friends who still needs u 3.hav a forgiving view 4.come on! and words like that
This article is very good and helpful to many boys and girls coz this has become a very common problem for lots of boys and girls who fall in love only to be deceived by either side for various reasons and if the cheated person is a sensitive person then he/she resorts to extreme steps like suicide or taking revenge on his/her lover, etc.
These kind of articles help them to come out of their depression and move ahead in life.
so true,...u always think tht you will never get over it....but u ll get over it and also learn to fall in love again, tht is hope...and I too live with tht hope.
RE:heal ur broken heart
by Anonymous on Jan 03, 2007 10:38 PM
you are so true when you say that we go to any extent to ensure that the person we love is happy. If they get annoyed, we try our best to pacify them. After giving our hundred percent if they decide and walk away someday, its not our fault. We should then talk and make it clear that I did the best I could and if thats not enough, we are not meant for each other..no point in ploughing any further
hi...read the article...well all my comment to it is that...ITS ALL SULCKING part..
wat i did was also the same thg which u hav written.but How cod i giv the right to anybdy to play with my heart...SO got her back as she got me..Played the RULES..N RIGHT on confronted her. not with the weaker heart, coz i alrdy decided SHE NOT MY WORTH..."the strength in the character shows in your eyes.."SO, wher els she cod run..SAW WAT she GAV upOn..N me walked away with MY heart n HEAD held HIGH!!
RE:heal your heart.
by HARI on Jan 31, 2006 01:44 PM
hats off to u. u are right nobody has the right to play with our hearts.it's so easy sometimes to keep blaming ourselves for things not working out. when the truth is when we are in love we get out of our ways and think ,worry and care for that person.bend head over heels to make them happy and pacify them if they are angry. their problems are our problems.
when we are giving it our best and if that is not enough we are giving it somemore. but its never enough. never good enough. but the experience does help us to pick up the signs early from next time.. sincerely hari
hey i found ur dis article very nice and its really the healing one...as i broke with somone last year too..still miss him..felt very satisfied...and better after reading this thank you
