Do not feel aggrieved. We, the people of India, understand your feelings. Guruvayur temple follows extreme path of purity (as per old traditions) and they wash the temple for so many reasons. No one disputes or can dispute that you and your sons and grandsons are HINDU's, as long as you and your family believes in the Vedas. Have peace of mind and submit all your actions to Lord Krishna. Your grandchildren will come up in life in a big manner. Our blessings are with them.
