there is lot of mis understanding between my husband & me due my motherlaw.now ihave left my husband home &i am having no job &ihave 2yrbaby.my husband is calling me but i am afraid to go back due my motherinlaw that she will creating many problems &even my husband support only to mother views not me. what should i do now? motherinlaw is ready to do second marriage to his son .
RE:dispute between relatinships
by Jyoti Singh on Feb 08, 2007 02:10 PM Permalink
Its very general infact, mostly husbands doesnt tell anything to his mother, though she is wrong. The ultimate solution is not the one what you choose, left husband house. My suggestion is to be diplomatic, do favour to your mother in law in front of your husband, try to please her in front of him, never show him that you dnt like your mother in law, try to get his confidence in you so that he would bound to realise that somethibng is wrong with his mother only, once he will start telling to his mother problem will sorted out.
RE:dispute between relatinships
by shaina vaity on Feb 08, 2007 01:13 PM Permalink
Dear Friend I think leaving house is not a solution you need to think about your future as well as about your baby later wha will be her future. Due to your problems you'll cant spoil childs future. There is solution to every problems with little compromise problem can be solved and it can make your childs future too. Every women has a dream of her married life but shuttering it later just for a misunderstanding is wrong. Your husband wants you back home it means he loves you and want to lead his life with you and does not want to get married again this shows that he cares for you and in this he will not listen to his mother. I think you should think even about your husbands future too know everything is in your hand just compromise and go back. May be there must be something good in your fold its God's will
RE:dispute between relatinships
by rebel on Feb 09, 2007 01:04 AM Permalink
Hi, This is a common problem in marriages. This usually occurs because your Mother in law may feel insecure. Similarly you will feel insecure as well. Your husband wants to live with you but you must realise that it is hard for him to take a stand against his mother. I think you should speak to him and tell him the things that make you really upset. You will have to compromise on a number of things but you must know where to draw the line. Your husband will not forget the good you do to keep the family together. I suggest you meet your husband and discuss the issue. There is no point in running away. If you think things are very bad and you don't have a chance then it is better to legally separate and get on with your lives. But it appears from your statement that you and your husband want to be together, so make the most of it. Remember you have only one chance to make this work so make the most of it. All the best
