I just went through love affair at office with married collogue.It is painful feeling handling breakup due to my transfer from earlier location.She and I decided to commit to our family and forgive each other for neglecting our partner.So it is essential to keep oneself busy and engaged mentally .so sadie frost i feel is positively addressing the issue bringing calmness and peace to mind .then discuss about failed marraige and create new relationship.
Love is a very important factor in the life of a man or woman. To say that there is no time for love or related things is unacceptable. If there is mind there is always way.
We can take out time if we know where to find girls. For ex, all marriages are due to people finding each other eitehr in college, work place or colony. For a vast number of people, there are no such places, where you can go ahead and hook up. Indian girls are hell bent on sex after marriage, which makes it necessary for guys to marry. Otherwise who would want to marry!
Re: Places
by saahhil on Jan 24, 2009 02:22 PM Permalink
how disgusting and one-sided thoughst you guys have.. ? I mean...do u really think its only about sex everywhere and everytime...and does marriage mean only sex for you ? If u think that guys are forced to marry only because girls do sex only after marriage, then why dont guys go to brothels or call girls ? after all, they want only sex isnt it ? Grow up !!! ...The reality is that most of the young generation guys are afraid of committment, responsibilities, dedication, loyalty towards wife, and smaller hassles of a married life...and thats why you can afford to say - who would want to marry ? .... but trust me...the real satisfaction is seeing happiness in your life partners eyes and fulfilling your responsibilities, and not just go on having sex... sex is temporary pleasure, marriage is eternal pleasure, provided both the partners are genuine... no wonder Indians are swore at in the west - its only because of people like you.
Agreed Money is important in Today's world. However, many of them who are married loose the sight of relationship because of that.
Attention and care : It applies for both men and women. Have some dedicattion for your relationship. Enjoy talking more about each other rather than talking problems of office at home.
Call up each other from office, whenever you have some time free in between work hours. Not sure every one will work nonstop 8 hours. Talk to them for few minutes. Nowadays mobile phones are handy to reach out to them.
If a husband or wife comes home first, plan some surprise for your partner. However, this may not happen daily, but still it helps somehow.
Give space between each other. This will allow each other to have their own privacy.
In todays times, we seem to be more preoccupied by other peripheral issues like will I get my usual train, will I reach on time, will there be a bomb blast, will children reach school on time, what if the maid bunks, will I meet my targets & deadlines...so there is little or no time to even think about other things...Its really sad but true..Thats reality today. It all depends on how one is able to balance all these requirements. However, I think, its important that we must NOT do the following : Carry work Home, Attend official calls when at home with family, etc. We must devote value time to our kids too. Kids feel neglected with parents being educated and career minded and hence remain out till late hours. Then if they go astray we blame them which is not right. All relationships are essentially built on trust and that should not be violated. Good humour, light hearted talks, etc. should be taken in good spirit and not with any suspicious view. So it is all about trust and balance in life. Deepak
I think this article applies only to US and Europe. Because here even if we have time, where are the dating avenues in India? Dating websites are a faliure here, with only guys and guys registering. Parents never encourage kids for dating, it's still a taboo, except for some people. What is one supposed to do, even if not busy?
